Wednesday, June 8, 2016

The Long and Short of It

You know what's tougher than being a short female? A short male.

Aside from the physical hardships (it's hard being small in a tall/average-sized world), there is plenty of emotional/psychological hardships (studies show that taller people are perceived as stronger/smarter/better/etc.).

Why am I talking about height? At this very moment, I am watching Ride Along 2 (#dontjudge). As I'm watching it, I've lost track of the number of short jokes that have been used to refer to Kevin Hart's height.

It also reminded me of this ad that is out for his new movie that I've been seeing around:

It's supposed to be "funny," but if I were Kevin Hart, I'd be laughing...through gritted teeth. He seems like a good sport, and I'm sure he's just brushing all the jokes off his shoulders (and laughing all the way to the bank), but I know that I'd be tired of everyone making references to my height (in fact, I already do this).

I know people don't mean anything rudely when referring to my height, but it makes me feel little (literally and figuratively); like they don't see me as an actual person. When you're constantly barraged with comments referring to a physical attribute (especially anything that you don't actively call out), it gets tiresome.  Especially when the attribute is seen as a negative one.

People always tell me "oh just ignore it!" which I do. It's usually other people (typically strangers or people I don't know well) who are the first to make comments. The best thing I've found to do is to downplay the comments by either ignoring it/not addressing it, or smiling and quickly moving on.

I can't change my height, and I can't change that people won't make comments/jokes. The only thing I can do is just not let them get to me.

Friday, May 13, 2016

How to Get Over Embarrassment?

This is actually not a post about how to get over embarrassment; rather I am asking that question to get an answer for myself!

Without going into too much detail, today I put myself in an embarrassing situation that made me look stupid. Not just foolish, but lacking any intelligence - I couldn't answer an easy question. The other party was very nice about it, but I was so mortified by my lack of response, it is still bothering me 8 hours later.

I guess I need to figure out why I am bothered by this situation: it makes me look stupid, when I do not feel like I am a stupid person.

I do have to say I think that we are our own harshest critics, so I am probably blowing this out of proportion. But while I am probably just an insignificant moment in that person's life, there is a small part of me that is worried that I may be one of those memories that stays with that person. Think about an embarrassing story you remember about another person - what if I am that story for that person? Like, "wow,  people are so stupid these days. This one girl couldn't even answer an easy question!"

Even if that is the case, I guess I shouldn't let it get to me - it already happened, I can't change it, and I just have to use common sense (and take a moment to actually think!) and not let it happen again. Because I am a person with a brain!